Often times, we see movies where cross-class relationships will eventually end in marriage after the initial disapproval "mostly" by the upper class parents, but after the couple's struggle and all, they end up getting married and the movie tells us - "happily ever after".
The truth is, the end of the movie is usually the beginning of the journey in real life. If we have a situation like this in real life, can the couple truly live happily ever after?
The fact is, in most occasions - They don't.
Social class involves a set of standards and values and these standards and values will ultimately be transferred to the offspring. Most people think their standard is satisfactory and significant than that of others.
Couple from different social class often view basic and vital issues from different angles e.g how to manage finances, how to train children, the kind of people to move with, and so on.
Factors such as different level of education, different family culture, different level of income, different personality and even different desires, can give one individual more strength over the other and this may lead to one party having more power in the relationship, when this happens, resentment may set in, the person of lower class may also be affected with inferiority complex, he/she will feel intimidated and sometimes even lose his/her self-esteem. With all these, you two might not be going along well.
Remember you are from different background, different environment, definitely you would both have different characteristics. Your reasoning and behavioural pattern will quite be different.
As a lady from an advanced class (middle or upper class), all your life in your parent's house, you have been instructing the maids at home on your likes and dislikes. Can you cope when you are left alone or with just your mother in-law to do all the necessary house chores?
You have lived in a comfortable apartment or even in a mansion throughout your life with your parents, but your hubby is suggesting you both move to an uncomfortable apartment (perhaps he grew up in that kind of place ) just to save cost. Can you cope with a situation like this?
As a guy, won't you get pissed off if your partner finds it difficult to handle those glass materials in your mansion properly?
Wouldn't it be a slap in your face when your partner who her usual way of catching fun is by gossiping starts gossiping around even when you fix her up with an accommodation in a mansion?
Let's look at a more logical issue here :
Can you stomach it when you are willing to give your child the best in terms of education not minding spending a lot on the child but your partner sees this as an idea which is not important. He/she just want you to spend that money on material things that could only bring short-term happiness e.g buying the latest car in town? He/she may think it's normal if your child attends a lower class school that would save money even when the child can't get the best.
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Education is one of the major components of social class, it matters a lot to people from the advanced class, when they want their child to pursue a specific career, they do all it takes not minding the cost. For people in the lower class, anything goes as a matter of destiny, they may not be ready to give it all in term of education and even in terms of some other things that matters when it comes to advance social class.
Although, there are more factors that can influence marriage apart from social class, but you would like to agree with me that social class does matter.
Can you understand your partner's personality and adjust to it easily?
My opinion would rather be - if you are from a lower class and you would like to marry someone in an advanced class, then, you have to work and get to that particular class before marriage, otherwise, marry from that particular class of yours, be it - upper, middle or lower class, so as to avoid negative story in the future.
If you strive together with your partner in the lower class, you will also definitely become successful someday.
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